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Wednesday, February 29, 2012

DCF pushes to return boy to home he fears

DCF pushes to return boy to home he fears

A judge ordered the release of documents involving a 9-year-old found wandering the streets hungry and naked, and questioned the state’s intention to return him to his family.

Arrests In Schools a Sharp Reminder That Life Doesn't Stop at the Classroom Door

Arrests In Schools a Sharp Reminder That Life Doesn't Stop at the Classroom Door

The New York City Police Department (NYPD) has just released some startling numbers: five students are arrested on average each day in NYC public schools. In the three month period covered (October through December 2011), 93 percent of those arrested were black or Latino and 75 percent were male. While these numbers by themselves are disturbing, they mask the full extent of the challenge that we as a city face.

Judge approves settlement in DHS child-welfare case

Judge approves settlement in DHS child-welfare case

U.S. District Judge Gregory Frizzell approved a settlement agreement Wednesday intended to create systemic changes and improvements in Oklahoma’s child-welfare system.

Child welfare minister misled by officials

Child welfare minister misled by officials

District Women and Child Department officials told Varsha Gaikwad that they were the ones who filed a complaint in the case, when in reality a police officer is the complainant

NewsChannel 3's investigation into Baby Braxton's death gets results

NewsChannel 3's investigation into Baby Braxton's death gets results

Ten-month old Braxton Taylor was abused to death by his second foster mother, Kathleen Ganiere. She tricked Virginia Beach social-services workers with her lies about how Braxton became bruised and battered. She is now in prison, and at first, she was the only person Beach social services leaders held responsible.

Boy, 12, admits to Plainfield arsons, police say

Boy, 12, admits to Plainfield arsons, police say

A 12-year-old boy in southwest suburban Plainfield has been charged in a series of arsons over a two-week period starting last Christmas.

Mothers tell of cruelty and demand an apology

Mothers tell of cruelty and demand an apology

WOMEN who had their children torn from them in forced adoptions are owed a formal apology and money to help them find each other, an inquiry recommends.

Couple denies abusing son as they battle state for custody

Couple denies abusing son as they battle state for custody

The state accuses two McMinnville parents of abusing their child, but the couple insists they're innocent.

Mother fights for cancer treatment for foster daughter

Mother fights for cancer treatment for foster daughter

Paulette Nellems has played a number of roles throughout her life—daughter, wife, church member and worker and civil rights activist. In the past year or so, she’s become known to the community as the president of the Fort Wayne Chapter of the NAACP. But of all the roles she plays in life, there’s one that is of paramount importance— that of a mother.

Death Files of Abused Children Shrouded in Secrecy Despite Law for Disclosure

Death Files of Abused Children Shrouded in Secrecy Despite Law for Disclosure

Elisa’s law, a result of frustrations of legislators in failing to hold New York City officials accountable in child abuses deaths, continues to be bypassed citing the same reasons – need of confidentiality- the exact reasons that Elisa’s law was created to battle.

Spirit Lake Tribe to correct deficiencies in foster care program

Spirit Lake Tribe to correct deficiencies in foster care program

State human services officials have given the Spirit Lake Tribe until the end of March to correct deficiencies found in the administration of foster care.

Senate Inquiry Delves Deeper on Forced Adoptions in Australia

Senate Inquiry Delves Deeper on Forced Adoptions in Australia


A Senate inquiry is due to report today on the circumstances surrounding forced adoptions in Australia.

Obese boy to return home Saturday after dropping 50 pounds

Obese boy to return home Saturday after dropping 50 pounds

The Cleveland Heights boy who was taken from his family and placed in foster care because of his weight will return home Saturday, 50 pounds lighter than when he left.

WRONGFULLY ARRESTED FATHER GETS NO APOLOGIES

WRONGFULLY ARRESTED FATHER GETS NO APOLOGIES

The Sansone family is not getting any apologies after they were put through hell by school officials, social workers and police last week.

State takes a Beating as Child Welfare Debate Begins

State takes a Beating as Child Welfare Debate Begins

The state Department of Health and Human Services took a beating in the state capitol today as lawmakers began debate on five bills aimed at improving the way the department helps abused and neglected children.

Kelsey Grammer and Camille settle child custody case

Kelsey Grammer and Camille settle child custody case

Kelsey Grammer and ex-wife Camille have settled their child custody case.

FOX RANT: Overhauling DHS



Five bills calling for critical changes to Oklahoma's Department of Human Services are now on their way to the House floor. This is an excellent start, but the legislature MUST get this done. Too many children in Oklahoma are suffering...and this has gone on way too long.

Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Congressman decries ‘overuse’ of psychotropic drugs on children

Congressman decries ‘overuse’ of psychotropic drugs on children

Rep. Jim McDermott said Tuesday that there is “a lot of overuse” and “bad use” of psychotropic drugs by doctors and foster parents treating foster children in the United States.

Speaking at a press event with the Congressional Caucus on Foster Youth, McDermott, who is a psychiatrist, explained that an alarming amount of foster children are given psychotropic drugs, paid for by the federal government, simply because their carers “want kids to be quiet.”

Note: So he teams up with one of foster care's greatest sellouts to fight the problem.

DCS Director Defends Centralized Hotline



The director of the Indiana Department of Child Services is defending the agency's centralized hotline that's drawn criticism from lawmakers.

State Keeps Death Files of Abused Children Secret

State Keeps Death Files of Abused Children Secret

When Elisa Izquierdo, a 6-year-old, was killed by her mother in 1995, she became a symbol of a dysfunctional bureaucracy, one that allowed a drug addict to retain custody of her daughter despite numerous reports of abuse.

Lawmakers urged to look to the future, not dwell on child welfare failures

Lawmakers urged to look to the future, not dwell on child welfare failures

State lawmakers have settled in for two days of debate on child welfare issues, considered by many to be the top issue this legislative session.

Foster care provider appeals state decision to end license

Foster care provider appeals state decision to end license

Contemporary Family Services, Maryland's second-largest foster care provider, has appealed the state's decision to terminate its license when it expires in mid-March.

Deported Mexican in bid to reunite with sons

Deported Mexican in bid to reunite with sons

More than 20,000 people have signed an online petition in the US to have a deported Mexican father reunited with his three children who are currently in foster care.

Closing youth lockups applauded

Closing youth lockups applauded

Illinois houses juvenile offenders in eight detention centers across the state, including one in downstate Murphysboro that is only a third full, has little outdoor recreation space and costs $84,000 a year per youth to operate. It has nearly 100 staffers for its 53 inmates.

Forced Adoption Apology Forced Adoption Apology

The media in Australia is harping on this particular issue today.

Forced Adoption Apology

The Uniting Church has issued an historic apology for the forced adoption scandal more than 30 years ago.

Victims of forced adoption 'need more'

Given or Taken - Forced Adoptions

UNITING CHURCH SAYS SORRY OVER FORCED ADOPTIONS

Australia: Social worker tells of forced adoptions

Re-writing Australia’s history of forced adoption

Kids given placebos in attempt to raise test scores

Kids given placebos in attempt to raise test scores

At least one South Florida campus is hoping that feeding students a "special brain snack" will trick them into thinking it will boost their FCAT performance.

Overhaul child protection in Vic: inquiry

Overhaul child protection in Vic: inquiry

The revolving door of reuniting abused or neglected children with parents when it is not in a child's best interests must stop, the Victorian government says.

Victorian report recommends stronger child protection laws

Custody row: Norway Child Welfare Services gives children's custody to uncle

Custody row: Norway Child Welfare Services gives children's custody to uncle

In a big diplomatic win for India, the Child Welfare Services (CWS) of Norway have decided that the custody of two children of the Indian couple, Anurup and Sagarika Bhattacharya, should be given to the uncle, Arunabhash Bhattacharya

Monday, February 27, 2012

India rushes special envoy to Oslo to end custody row

India rushes special envoy to Oslo to end custody row

With patience running out in India over inordinate delay in repatriating two Indian children to their families by Norway, New Delhi sent a special envoy to Oslo to help expedite their return.

Bachmann Teams Up With Dems To Form Foster Caucus

Bachmann Teams Up With Dems To Form Foster Caucus

Rep. Michele Bachmann’s (R-Minn.) office announced Monday that the Minnesota Republican will be forming a Congressional caucus on Foster Youth along with two Democrats, Rep. Karen Bass (D-Calif.) and Rep. Jim McDermott (D-Wa.).

Are children in care being treated as crash-test dummies?

Are children in care being treated as crash-test dummies?

Fostering is touted as the new way forward. But this cheaper alternative to children's homes is not a panacea

Gallic bred: why French kids are better behaved than US and British

Gallic bred: why French kids are better behaved than US and British

PARIS // In a quayside restaurant in the French Mediterranean resort of La Londe les Maures, a girl of about 4 attacked her moules marinières as purposefully and with as much relish as her parents and older brother.

Woman called a liar when she made sex abuse claims against Rex Case

Woman called a liar when she made sex abuse claims against Rex Case

SOCIAL services were warned of a depraved foster dad’s sexual obsession with young girls long before they allowed him to look after children.

Adoptions: Ofsted issues tougher new rules

Adoptions: Ofsted issues tougher new rules

Local authorities in England will only get an outstanding rating for adoption in future if they place children within 12 months, Ofsted says.

‘Legal’ Kidnapping By The State To Cover Up Vaccine Injuries

‘Legal’ Kidnapping By The State To Cover Up Vaccine Injuries

In 1977 Professor Roy Meadow wrote a controversial paper on Munchausen Syndrome by Proxy (MSBP) for the Lancet, entitled ‘The Hinterland of Child Abuse’ (1) The paper was deemed problematic by many because the second case study used as evidence of MSBP type abuse described a child presenting with excessive sodium (salt) in the blood. During Meadow’s discussion he disclosed that this child was force-fed 20 g of sodium, with difficulty, by himself and his colleagues. Sadly the child died!

Most accusations against teachers in Wales are dropped

Most accusations against teachers in Wales are dropped

Over half of accusations made against teachers and teaching assistants by pupils in Wales turned out to be false, malicious or unfounded.

Social worker tells of forced adoptions

Social worker tells of forced adoptions

A former social worker has told how she was instructed to actively encourage young unmarried mothers to give up their babies for adoption at a Sydney hospital in the 1970s.

Foster care in America: A Nebraska caseworker gives away the game

Foster care in America: A Nebraska caseworker gives away the game

When it comes to the all-time Child Protective Services Excuse Hit Parade this item almost always is in the top three: “We can’t take away children,” says the caseworker or the supervisor or the agency flack or the agency director. “Only a judge has the power to do that. The courts make these decisions.”

Teacher 'destroyed by abuse lie'

Teacher 'destroyed by abuse lie'

As figures show that over half of the accusations made against teachers and teaching assistants by pupils in Wales turn out to be false, malicious or unfounded, one teacher tells their story.

Indian family protests in child custody row with Norway

Indian family protests in child custody row with Norway

The grandparents of two Indian children taken into protective care by Norwegian social workers staged a protest in New Delhi on Monday to demand the children's immediate return to their parents.

Child Protective Services: A system in trouble

Child Protective Services: A system in trouble

The best way to reduce child abuse and neglect and keep children safe is to help their families remain stable, experts say. That has become more of a challenge since the economy tumbled.

Poor who own child support could lose federal benefits

Poor who own child support could lose federal benefits

Thousands of poor and disabled men stand to lose their only income next year because of a change in government policy that will allow states to seize every dollar of federal benefits from people who owe back child support.

Rule could cost child support debtors only income

CT DCF worker charged with sexual assault

CT DCF worker charged with sexual assault

A Department of Children and Families [DCF] case worker, charged with the sexual assault of a young woman, is still under the department’s care.

Sunday, February 26, 2012

Take The Baby And Run - Baby LK Report For February 26th 2012

Foster care like punishment

Foster care like punishment

Bits of broken plate. Tweezers. Scissors. A rusty X-Acto knife.

These are the things Alexus Fourneau used to cut herself. You can still see the thin scars winding around on the inside of one arm. She used to cut her thighs, too, she says.

Was a Government Plan Behind Former Forced Adoption Practices?

Was a Government Plan Behind Former Forced Adoption Practices?

We've heard the stories of mothers whose babies were stolen for adoption last century. Was this simply social mores or was something more sinister at work?

STATE: Michigan ranks among 10 worst states for kids living in high-poverty neighborhoods, study says

STATE: Michigan ranks among 10 worst states for kids living in high-poverty neighborhoods, study says

Michigan ranks among the 10 worst states for children living in high-poverty neighborhoods, a new study finds, but study also indicates there are clear steps to take to improve the lives of kids in those communities.

Ex-IAS women officers to probe orphanage child abuse

Ex-IAS women officers to probe orphanage child abuse

Retired IAS officer Geeta Sagar has been appointed by the Delhi Government to head a Commission of Enquiry instituted to look into the issues and circumstances related to abuse of children and a death under mysterious circumstances at the Arya Anathalaya in Darya Ganj here. The other member of the CoE would be another retired IAS officer Janak Juneja.

Forced adoption pain

Forced adoption pain

Later this week a senate committee is likely to recommend a national apology to thousands of women who believe they were forced to give up their children for adoption.

Capital cry to bring back kids

Capital cry to bring back kids

They broke down as they spoke about little Aishwarya (1) and Abhigyan (3) who were taken away by Norwegian child welfare service, Barnevarne, in May last year. The kids' maternal grandparents Manatosh and Shikha Chakrabarti tried all means to be reunited with the children, including seeking help of the external affairs ministry.

The Baby P Effect and Social Services



The start to the BS of Social Services

Baby P the prelude to his tragic Death

Social workers in the borough of Haringey in North London had decided he was safe living with his mother and that her major difficulty as a parent was poverty.

Getting tougher: Social workers in the borough of Haringey in North London, led by Children's Service Director Sharon Shoesmith, had decided Baby P was safe living with his mother

Numbers of children removed from their homes rose rapidly in the wake of the death, and shot up even faster after Peter's mother and two men were jailed for causing his death at the Old Bailey in November 2008.

In April 2008 some 380 children were taken from their homes into state care.

Last month the figure was 903, and in the first ten months of the financial year which started last April 8,403 children were taken into care.

The total being looked after by the state is more than 65,000.

In the past, social workers have often tried to return children to inadequate mothers or left them to languish in children's homes or with rapidly changing foster families.

The result has been many children have left state care with no educational qualifications and gone on to lives of crime or single parenthood.

The head of the CAFCASS court assistance service for children, Anthony Douglas, said yesterday after the organisation released the figures: 'All agencies need to factor these much larger increases into their planning systems, resource allocations, workforce development strategies and service contracts, so that the most vulnerable children in the country continue to receive strong public services.'

Anne Marie Carrie, of the charity Barnardo's, said: 'While the increase in the number of children being referred into care might cause alarm, I am pleased that decisions are being made more quickly to remove children from harmful environments.

'Care can and does transform the lives of vulnerable children. This is why it is essential that we ensure that there are foster or adoptive parents ready to provide them with a stable and loving family.'

Coalition ministers have pushed through rules intended to dismantle artificial barriers used to stop children finding new parents, such as demanding that adopters are of the same race or do not smoke.

Maternity nurses "aggressors," not RFK son: Dr.

Maternity nurses "aggressors," not RFK son: Dr.

A son of Robert F. Kennedy is facing misdemeanor charges after he struggled with nurses who tried to stop him from carrying his newborn son out of the maternity ward at a hospital near New York City.

Saturday, February 25, 2012

11-year-old girl missing in Detroit

11-year-old girl missing in Detroit

Detroit police are looking for Tavia Bentley, an 11-year-old who police believe ran away from her foster home early today in an attempt to be reunited with her mother.

Minn . lawmakers mull ending prone restraints in schools

Minn . lawmakers mull ending prone restraints in schools

State lawmakers are considering a bill that would allow schools to keep using a controversial hold to subdue students. The practice known as the "prone restraint" or "prone hold" -- which is done by placing children face down while holding them.

Note: They should ban Prone Restraint. I've seen it in use on my daughter and was ready to start kicking teachers in the head. It's child abuse.


Bill would extend Minnesota's prone restraint law until late 2013

RFK's son struggles with nurses at NY hospital

RFK's son struggles with nurses at NY hospital

A son of Robert F. Kennedy is facing misdemeanor charges after he struggled with nurses who tried to stop him from carrying his newborn son out of the maternity ward at a hospital near New York City.

RFK’s Son Arrested

RFK’s Son Arrested

The son of Robert F. Kennedy has been arrested and charged with harassment and child endangerment after allegedly getting into an argument with nurses when he tried to take his newborn baby out of a hospital last month.

Mother could face jail because her children talked to each other on Facebook

Mother could face jail because her children talked to each other on Facebook

This case would make headlines across the land, if it were not hidden behind the family courts' extraordinary wall of secrecy.

Foster Mom Accused Of Child Endangerment, Neglect

Foster Mom Accused Of Child Endangerment, Neglect

A widely-respected foster care mother from Mille Lacs County has been charged with the cruel punishment, endangerment and neglect of a child.

Legislature, dept. heads concerned with Family Court judge's rulings

Legislature, dept. heads concerned with Family Court judge's rulings

The Oswego County Legislature has requested that Administrative Judge James Tormey review concerns raised by area officials regarding rulings handed down by Family Court Judge Kimberly Seager.

Friday, February 24, 2012

Social services worker Pauline Stannard stole children's money

Social services worker Pauline Stannard stole children's money

A Kent Social Services official who raided an emergency fund for vulnerable children to pay her rent has escaped an immediate jail sentence.

Missing Caldwell children now in Mexico

Missing Caldwell children now in Mexico

Police and FBI issued a statement confirming three children taken last week by their non custodial mother in Caldwell have crossed into Mexico. A witness said the children appeared unharmed and with their mother. They drove across the border in the same vehicle they left Idaho in. Law enforcement requested the Amber Alerts in Idaho and Nev. be canceled, but will continue to search for the mother and children.

Obama adminstration rips 46 thousand parents from children

Obama adminstration rips 46 thousand parents from children

Destroying families is 'collateral damage' of immigration policy...

Kids Talk About Abuse in Foster Homes

Kids Talk About Abuse in Foster Homes

A foster family spoke out recently after news surfaced that police arrested and charged two foster parents for blinding a 4-year-old child.

British councils may be forced to allow mixed-race adoptions

British councils may be forced to allow mixed-race adoptions

Education Secretary deeply angered over the falling numbers of adoptions which meant a 'cruel rationing of human love for those most in need'

Cops arrest dad after daughter draws gun picture

Cops arrest dad after daughter draws gun picture

A Kitchener father is upset that police arrested him at his children’s’ school Wednesday, hauled him down to the station and strip-searched him, all because his four-year-old daughter drew a picture of a gun at school.

Lawyer gets five months in custody for adoption scheme

Lawyer gets five months in custody for adoption scheme

A onetime high-profile attorney in adoption circles was sentenced Friday to five months in federal custody and nine months in home confinement for her guilty plea in what prosecutors called an international "baby-selling" ring.

State told to expedite release of child records

State told to expedite release of child records

A judge has ordered state officials to provide two years of records in child-abuse and neglect cases in 90 days to the state's two largest newspapers.

Foster parent indicted; lawyer seeks reduced bond

Foster parent indicted; lawyer seeks reduced bond

River Forest resident Robert Gaskill has been indicted by a grand jury in two cases of alleged predatory criminal sexual abuse.

A 16 Year Old Kid Finally Gets His Forever Home

New Jersey Teen Gets 30 Years For Stabbing Death Of Foster Father

A 16-year-old Camden County teenager has been sentenced to 30 years in prison for the stabbing death of his foster father in the summer of 2011.

Foster mother severely beats child who took forbidden candy

Foster mother severely beats child who took forbidden candy

In the city of Kotovo in the Volgograd region, a foster mother of 2 was arrested for the brutal beating of a six-year child for taking a piece of candy without permission. The boy is in intensive care in critical condition, reports RIA "Novosti" with reference to the regional prosecutor's office.

Mothers want apology over forced adoptions

Mothers want apology over forced adoptions

Women tell inquiry of how they were drugged and physically restrained as authorities took away their babies at birth.

Judge critical of state officials in ordering release of child abuse records

Judge critical of state officials in ordering release of child abuse records

Citing the “utter failure” of state officials to comply with fundamental requirements of the state open records law, Franklin Circuit Judge Phillip Shepherd has ordered the Kentucky Cabinet for Health and Family Services to release two years worth of child abuse records within 90 days.

NC DHHS defends school lunch inspections

NC DHHS defends school lunch inspections

Even though government officials admit mistakes were made in the way a Hoke County preschool program handled lunches students brought from home, they continue to enforce the regulations that caused a nationwide uproar.

Girl charged with assaulting policemen, CYS caseworker

Girl charged with assaulting policemen, CYS caseworker

Uniontown police said a girl assaulted two police officers and a Fayette County Children and Youth Services agent on Wednesday.

Note: Classic! The kid didn't want to go to foster care so they taser her and she gets charged with assault?

Social Services apologizes to Saskatchewan mother kept from her kids

Social Services apologizes to Saskatchewan mother kept from her kids

Saskatchewan's Social Services Department has apologized to a Prince Albert woman who was denied access to her own children.

£10k payout to Hull teen Kelly Clarkson, branded 'attention seeker' by social worker

£10k payout to Hull teen Kelly Clarkson, branded 'attention seeker' by social worker

AN ALLEGED child abuse victim has been awarded £10,000 compensation after a social worker dismissed her as an "attention seeker".

Gloucester Township youth gets 30 years in foster father's death

Gloucester Township youth gets 30 years in foster father's death

A Gloucester Township youth was sentenced Thursday to 30 years in prison for fatally stabbing his former foster father last year, authorities said.

Foster carer abuse case: Southampton council apologises

Foster carer abuse case: Southampton council apologises

Southampton City Council has apologised for mistakes which allowed a foster carer to persistently abuse children over 35 years.

DHS Asks For Help With Thousands Of Foster Children

DHS Asks For Help With Thousands Of Foster Children

DHS says it needs help with the thousands of foster care kids who are in state custody and need a home. During the Christmas holiday News 9 told you about a program which granted temporary custody so children wouldn't have to spend the holiday alone.

Note: Perhaps Oklahoma should try this approach. http://www.dispatch.com/content/stories/local/2012/02/23/childrens-services-hot-line-volume-soars.html

Not stealing so many kids is the only solution to an overwhelming number of kids in foster care.

Foster carer Rex Case jailed for child sex abuse

Foster carer Rex Case jailed for child sex abuse

A former foster parent who sexually abused children over a 35-year period has been jailed for 21 years.

Children Services hot-line volume soars

Children Services hot-line volume soars

Franklin County Children Services set records last year, with more than 28,000 calls to the agency’s hot line leading to 13,358 cases of suspected abuse and neglect.

I love it when Ms Tran gets all worked up.

Durring one of her rants against the unethical tactics of the Child Protective Industry in Michigan, our beloved Ms Tran came up with the brilliant idea that we give a System Suck Award to the most deserving System Sucks all across the USA and that these awards be hand delivered to such System Sucks so that they know that we care about the work they do (although not necessarily in the way that we do).

67 % of Detroit Kids Live In High Poverty Because Of System Sucks

So I will be creating this award later on, but let the nominations begin. The System Suck Award nominations should be sent to myself or Ms Tran. Names and contact info should be included so that the awards can be presented. Preferably the System Sucks name, phone number and mailing address and the reason that they are so deserving of such a prestigious award.

South Florida Families Among Many Who Face Adoption Heartbreak

South Florida Families Among Many Who Face Adoption Heartbreak

South Florida families are among many who face long, arduous and uncertain international adoption process

Barahona Twins File Lawsuit Against State, Contractors

Barahona Twins File Lawsuit Against State, Contractors

Victor and Nubia Barahona are represented by adults advocating on their behalf in suit, which alleges their constitutional rights were violated

India to mount 'all-out efforts' for NRI children's return

India to mount 'all-out efforts' for NRI children's return

New Delhi : Incensed by Norway's move to extend residence permits of two Indian children under foster care, India Thursday said it would make "all out" efforts to ensure their early return and stressed that they must be given the opportunity to come to their country.

Sen. Roach, Powell grandparents question Child Protective Services

Sen. Roach, Powell grandparents question Child Protective Services

Chuck and Judy Cox today joined Sen. Pam Roach, R-Auburn, 31st District, in urging changes at Child Protective Services that they believe will help protect children.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

House panel backs degrees for state child welfare workers

House panel backs degrees for state child welfare workers

A House committee approved a bill that would require state child welfare workers to get social work degrees and licenses from the Kentucky Board of Social Work.

Custodial parents interfere with visitation

Custodial parents interfere with visitation

The number of non-custodial parents who do not get their parent time with their children is epidemic. When a custodial parent interferes with their children's time with the other parent it is just plain evil, vindictive and serves no good purpose. Most men do not get custody of their children, and there are women who do not get custody, and they all have the same problem. The custodial parents interfere with their time with the children.

Report finds gaps in Minnesota child protection system

Report finds gaps in Minnesota child protection system

The Legislative Auditor says there are gaps in Minnesota's child protection system -- variations in how counties and some Indian tribes first respond to cases of alleged mistreatment of children.

Effort to revise gay adoption bill fails in House

Effort to revise gay adoption bill fails in House

A last-ditch effort to soften legislation allowing private adoption agencies to discriminate based on sexual orientation has failed in the Virginia House of Delegates.

Child Welfare Audit Report

Child Welfare Audit Report

Some Minnesota counties looked into every phone call that came into their office, and others only investigated a small portion. The State Legislative Auditor’s office is looking to change that.

Kansas House advances child abuse reporting changes

Penn State Paranoia Goes To Kansas

Kansas House advances child abuse reporting changes

The Kansas House has given first-round approval to a bill amending state law on mandatory reporting of alleged child abuse. Supporters said Wednesday the changes were in direct response to the allegations of child sex abuse at Penn State University involving former football defensive coordinator Jerry Sandusky.

Would you want your state to investigate this child abuse allegation?

Would you want your state to investigate this child abuse allegation?

Minnesota's legislative auditor came up with a fascinating way to test the consistency of the state's child welfare intake agencies. The auditor presented 10 fictional abuse complaints to 84 tribal and county child welfare agencies to see whether they'd agree about whether to investigate.

Norway keeps parents on tenterhooks with moves to keep back children

Norway keeps parents on tenterhooks with moves to keep back children

As Indian authorities made moves to prevent the Norwegian government from extending the visas of two Indian children placed in care so that they could be retained in Norway even after their parents return to India, officials in Stavanger refused to confirm or deny whether they had indeed sought to extend the visas of the children.

India protests move to extend foster care: Children not stateless, orphans

Fears of child abuse if 'gay law' made weak

Fears of child abuse if 'gay law' made weak

Maryanne Godboldo honoured after winning fight for daughter

Maryanne Godboldo honoured after winning fight for daughter

Rapturous applause greets a heroic African mother after she wins her struggle against the US government over the custody and wellbeing of her 13 year old daughter.

State again to oversee most child welfare cases

State again to oversee most child welfare cases

Top Nebraska officials plan to change course on child welfare after the state's experiment in privatization suffered a major blow Tuesday.

How a smoking habit affects your child custody case

How a smoking habit affects your child custody case

There are many effects on a child when their parents get a divorce. Aside from the obvious confusion they will feel towards the separation and the questions they will have about the divorce, there is the matter of legally establishing where they will spend their time and how they will be raised.

Could smoking affect the outcome of a child custody case?

The Foster Care System and Its Victims Part 4

The Foster Care System and Its Victims Part 4

The costs of a compromised foster care system, and some possible solutions

More U.S. kids living in high-poverty areas: study

More U.S. kids living in high-poverty areas: study

Years of economic setbacks have taken their toll on the nation's youngest residents, with another 1.6 million children living in high-poverty neighborhoods, according to one study that shows nearly 8 million children residing in poor areas in 2010.

Cox family talking to Wash. lawmakers about child welfare system reforms

Cox family talking to Wash. lawmakers about child welfare system reforms

The family of missing West Valley City mom Susan Cox Powell is pushing for reforms of Washington state's department of social and health services.

Norway Custody row: Foster homes - Child welfare or lucrative business?

Norway Custody row: Foster homes - Child welfare or lucrative business?

They say putting children in foster homes is not the only thing child welfare services do. They also provide a great deal of support to parents.

Zimbabwe: Cracking Whip On Unregistered Social Workers

Zimbabwe: Cracking Whip On Unregistered Social Workers

A SOCIAL worker is a person who, speaking broadly, is charged with bringing human dignity where there is indignity. These are the people who work with abused children in need of care, abused women, and pick and mend the broken pieces in the lives of these vulnerable people.

Nicole Richie - Nicole Richie Offers Kids To Jessica Simpson

Nicole Richie - Nicole Richie Offers Kids To Jessica Simpson

Nicole Richie has offered to loan her children to Jessica Simpson to help her prepare for motherhood.

Baby P 'off radar' for 12 days

Baby P 'off radar' for 12 days

Two of Baby P's social workers committed a "serious error of judgment" over an episode when the little boy "disappeared off the radar" for 12 days in north London, a tribunal has heard.


Baby Peter social workers made 'serious errors'

Social Services apologizes to mom

Social Services apologizes to mom

Social Services staff who disregarded a Prince Albert judge’s explicit orders to allow visits between a mother and her two young children were clearly wrong to do so, Ministry officials conceded in a report filed earlier this month at Court of Queen’s Bench.

Bill to open some family courts advances

Bill to open some family courts advances

A bill to open family courts in some Kentucky counties to the public — a pilot project aimed at increasing trust in now-confidential proceedings — won unanimous approval from a House committee Wednesday after several judges testified in support of it.

TEXTS AND FACEBOOK POSTS, EVIDENCE IN MARYLAND FAMILY LAW COURTS

TEXTS AND FACEBOOK POSTS, EVIDENCE IN MARYLAND FAMILY LAW COURTS

Those who are going through divorce or other family law proceedings in Maryland might want to be careful with their digital communication messages. Texts, emails, Facebook and blog posts all represent written documents that are often used in family law court.

Paedophile foster carer Rex Case facing jail after years of abuse in Southampton

Paedophile foster carer Rex Case facing jail after years of abuse in Southampton

A PERVERTED foster carer was allowed to systematically sexually abuse young girls in his care – even after the alarm was raised by a five-year old who had been raped.

Bronx facility helps those aged out of foster care

Bronx facility helps those aged out of foster care

There's a new facility in the Bronx that provides temporary housing to young men and women who have aged out of the foster care system.

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Smokers losing child custody cases a growing trend

Smokers losing child custody cases a growing trend

If you smoke cigarettes, by now you have heard all the reasons you should quit: the harm to your health, the expense, the limits on where you can indulge your habit.

Child Returned to the U.S. Safely

Child Returned to the U.S. Safely

The United States Marshal Service in New Mexico assisted the Las Cruces Police Department in reuniting a 1 year old child with her family in the United States. The young girl's mother, Nicole Jauregui, 19, and her boyfriend, 20-year-old Jose Mendez, are being charged with child abuse after the one year old tested positive for drugs.

DFCS acknowledges wrongdoing in child's death

DFCS acknowledges wrongdoing in child's death

State child protection officials acknowledged Tuesday that they failed to properly watch over a 4-year-old Fulton County boy who died Feb. 6 of head injuries in a case that has been ruled a homicide.

Panel OKs ban on some sex criminals fostering kids

Panel OKs ban on some sex criminals fostering kids

A panel of state legislators has approved a bill that would bar people convicted of a child sex offense from serving as foster parents.

Outspoken opponent of children's aid societies arrested

Outspoken opponent of children's aid societies arrested

An uneventful protest against the Chatham-Kent Children's Services (CKCS) took an unexpected turn when an organizer was arrested Tuesday afternoon.

Audit: Child-welfare checks uneven in Minnesota

Audit: Child-welfare checks uneven in Minnesota

Minnesota's child welfare system needs stronger guidance to ensure that vulnerable children are treated consistently from one county to another, a legislative audit concluded Tuesday.

Unregistered children's homes, orphanages to attract penal provisions

Unregistered children's homes, orphanages to attract penal provisions

In a bid to bring unregistered children's homes and orphanages under the scanner, the women and child development (WCD) ministry is planning to introduce penal provisions if an institution is found unregistered. The penalty could attract one year in imprisonment, and Rs 50,000 as fine.

Do grandparents get visitation rights? Supreme Court declines case.

Do grandparents get visitation rights? Supreme Court declines case.

Two Alabama grandparents have lost their bid to have court-ordered regular visits with their teenaged granddaughters.

Bill allowing private adoption agencies to deny placing children with gays approved by Senate

Bill allowing private adoption agencies to deny placing children with gays approved by Senate

Private adoption agencies could deny placing children with prospective parents who are gay under a bill that received final approval in the Virginia General Assembly on Tuesday.

Va. passes contentious gay adoption bill

Ex-judge in Mass. defends forced abortion ruling

Ex-judge in Mass. defends forced abortion ruling

A retired Massachusetts judge on Tuesday defended her decision to order a mentally ill woman to have an abortion and be sterilized against her wishes, and she blasted Boston University for rescinding a job offer after her ruling sparked controversy.

CBC exclusive: Foster care in Quebec

CBC exclusive: Foster care in Quebec

A Quebec Human Rights Commission report is shedding light on the province's youth services.

Reforming Colorado’s child welfare system (3 Letters)

Reforming Colorado’s child welfare system

I applaud Gov. John Hickenlooper’s recently announced steps to reform the Colorado child protection system — especially his commitment to reveal more information about child deaths and near deaths.

Largest child welfare service provider splits with state over money

Largest child welfare service provider splits with state over money

Nebraska’s largest provider of child welfare services has decided to end its role as lead agency, giving management of foster care cases back to the state.

Child welfare reorganizes after loss of KVC

Neb. Contractor To Stop Managing Child Cases


Another blow to child welfare privatization

Constitutional Rights

School vaccinates child



School vaccinates child

Gay couples encouraged to foster children in Leeds

Gay couples encouraged to foster children in Leeds

"He stepped into his bedroom and just looked around like he'd gone to Willy Wonka's chocolate factory: 'Is this my room?', he asked."

Note: They British Child Welfare Agents have stolen so many kids, that they are now forced to look for new markets to house them and adopt them out to. Of course, they could try working with some of the real families so that they can be better able to provide safe and loving homes, but who am I to suggest such a thing? Perhaps it's just better to keep lowering their standards for foster homes.

French Mother Gets Child Custody in Pakistan

Children removed from home of ACLU director after dispute

Children removed from home of ACLU director after dispute

The stepchildren of the director of the South Dakota chapter of the American Civil Liberties Union were placed in protective custody last week after a family dispute call at his address.

Maryland severs ties with second-largest foster care provider

Maryland severs ties with second-largest foster care provider

State officials said Tuesday that they would not renew Contemporary Family Services' license to place foster care children, alleging that the Hyattsville-based company falsified minutes of board meetings and failed to pay its foster parents and employees on time, among other issues.

Baby P social workers to appeal sacking

Baby P social workers to appeal sacking

Two social workers who handled Baby P's case, and were sacked following the infants death in 2007, are claiming they were unfairly sacked.

Shoesmith backs Baby P appeal pair

Baby P Social Workers Launch Unfair Dismissal Case

Baby P social services boss Sharon Shoesmith backs social workers' appeal against dismissal

Kids Forced To Sign Their Civil Rights Away

Kids Forced To Sign Their Civil Rights Away

Gang prevention or student discrimination? Several families accuse Gaston County Schools of going after kids within the Latino community.

India warns Norway children in custody row are 'neither orphans nor stateless persons'

India warns Norway children in custody row are 'neither orphans nor stateless persons'

New Delhi: India has told Norway officials that two Indian children who have been put in foster care there against their parents' wishes are "neither orphans nor Stateless persons, and enjoy the protection of the Indian State." The strong stand follows attempts by Norwegian officials to keep the children there after their visas expire next month. Here are 10 developments in this complex story:

Indian children in foster care are not stateless: India to Norway

Kids in foster care are not orphans, India tells Norway

Kevin Hart - Guys are bad parents

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

About Bachmann's Twenty-Three Foster Kids

About Bachmann's Twenty-Three Foster Kids

As Bachmann has told and retold her story as one of divine inspiration, she has recast her biography in ever more grandiose directions. A great example is the issue of her "28 children." Bachmann has five kids and, something even her most withering critic should acknowledge, has cared for 23 foster kids. But in 2008 — 10 years after any of her foster children had been in her home — Bachmann was talking as though she was still dashing home from Congress to cook for them. "Every weekend now when I go home, I will go to the grocery store, I'll buy food for the family," she said. "We have five kids and 23 foster kids that we raise. So I go to the grocery store and buy a lot of food."

Family reunites at KCI



After being torn apart by adoption and being torn from one another, a family reunited at over the weekend.

Orphanage abuse: Govt plans state-level probe

Orphanage abuse: Govt plans state-level probe

After appointing an administrator to manage the operation of the Arya orphanage at Daryaganj, the Delhi government is now planning to carry out a state-level inquiry into the alleged abuse of inmates to get to the root of the problem and evolve mechanisms to prevent such violations in all homes.

Over-Reporting Can Lead To Worse Outcomes For At-Risk Kids

Over-Reporting Can Lead To Worse Outcomes For At-Risk Kids

Reporting anything and everything to DSS is not being cautious. On the contrary, it is a profoundly reckless act. It exposes hundreds of innocent children to the enormous trauma of a child abuse investigation or worse, needless placement in foster care. At the same time, it overloads caseworkers so they have even less time to find children in real danger.

Note: You go Wex!

Gender non-conformity increases kids' risk of abuse

Gender non-conformity increases kids' risk of abuse

Children whose activity choices, interests and pretend play don't conform to expected gender roles face an increased risk of abuse and future trauma, a new study finds.

Kids who veer from gender norms at higher risk for abuse

Doors close on grandparents' adoption fight as judge doubts their willingness to sever ties with son Doors close on grandparents' adoption fight as

Doors close on grandparents' adoption fight as judge doubts their willingness to sever ties with son

Mary Ann and Stuart Hagerty were driving from New Jersey to Florida just before Christmas 2010 when she turned to him. "This is going to be it," she said. "We're going to get her this time."

Child Trafficking Advocates: Victims Are not Criminals

Child Trafficking Advocates: Victims Are not Criminals

Human trafficking is not only a popular story line on police dramas on television; it also is a growing crime in Ohio as well as around the world. An estimated 1,000 children in Ohio are at risk of being forced into the sex trade each year, and law enforcement experts say the Internet is compounding the problem.

Chinese couples come to U.S. to have children through surrogacy

Chinese couples come to U.S. to have children through surrogacy

China does not permit surrogate parenting, but that country's rising affluence has given many couples the option of using U.S. surrogacy clinics.

Before the torture, Nubia Barahona dreamed as a child

Before the torture, Nubia Barahona dreamed as a child

After all the torment and torture, Nubia Barahona could still flash a smile. It was radiant and confident, set off by blond bangs and big hazel eyes. She smiled like a girl with her whole life ahead of her.

Is Florida’s child protection system safer than it was a year ago?

Nubia Barahona: the life, death of an abused child

Community reaction to Canadian foster care in crisis

Community reaction to Canadian foster care in crisis

An estimated 85-thousand children and youth across Canada are in foster care, and experts warn that some have been placed without full safety checks, while good parenting candidates are sometimes discouraged by the bureaucracy.

Solving Child Welfare 'Crisis'

Solving Child Welfare 'Crisis'

A showdown looms, with time running out to address concerns over the state's foster care system.

DCS: Record number of foster children found permanent homes in 2011

DCS: Record number of foster children found permanent homes in 2011

Note: Were they offering Christmas Specials?

DCS said 1,787 children found permanent homes, with the highest number of children being adopted in December.

Note: Just wait til Bonus Time... Ka Ching!!!

18 and out of foster care

18 and out of foster care

Across the country, child welfare advocates are increasingly aware of the problems of young lives left in limbo as a result of bouncing through a dozen group homes and foster homes. Once the children turn 18, they find out they have a new identity to add to their list, "aged out".

Ex-foster child account triggers Quebec investigation

Ex-foster child account triggers Quebec investigation

CBC News has learned a Quebec Human Rights Commission investigation is raising serious concerns about foster children across the province.

Welfare homes themselves violate child rights: Agnivesh

Welfare homes themselves violate child rights: Agnivesh

The institutions responsible for the welfare of children themselves violate child rights, activist Swami Agnivesh said Monday, referring to the alleged abuse of inmates in an orphanage here.

Child Protective Services has 'serious' problems, Wash. senator says

Child Protective Services has 'serious' problems, Wash. senator says

After Josh Powell killed his two sons and himself, a Washington State senator says Child Protective Services needs to be fixed.

UNC kicks off child welfare 'wicked problems' series of meetings

UNC kicks off child welfare 'wicked problems' series of meetings

Dozens of child welfare experts will gather at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill Wednesday and Thursday (Feb. 22-23) for the first in a series of national meetings aimed at forging solutions to keep children safe and healthy.

Wanted: 200 more social workers

Wanted: 200 more social workers

Note: And once again I will offer you all of ours.

The social-service sector is facing a shortfall of about 200 social workers, Acting Minister for Community Development, Youth and Sports Chan Chun Sing said yesterday.

Fathers' custody rights getting attention in Legislature

Fathers' custody rights getting attention in Legislature

After a 3-year-old girl was killed in a single-car accident in 2011, her grandparents came to Rep. Ryan Wilcox asking for his help.

FBI seeks mother who fled with kids

FBI seeks mother who fled with kids

The FBI is looking for a mother from Idaho who is accused of snatching her three children during a visitation, trriggering an Amber Alert.

Adderall High: Students Drugging for Final Exams

Adderall High: Students Drugging for Final Exams

More than 6.4 million prescriptions for Adderall, the drug is used to treat attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, were filled last year, according to a recent study.

Norwegian wood: Racism to child care racket

Norwegian wood: Racism to child care racket

Has there been anything more outrageous, cruel and insensitive than the Norway kids case? Dark as a Scandinavian winter, this unbelievable story shows no sign of ending soon.

Baby P social workers to appeal over sacking

Baby P social workers to appeal over sacking

Two social workers who lost their jobs after the killing of Baby P will appeal against an employment tribunal ruling they were fairly sacked.

SC bill to bar sex offenders from foster parenting

SC bill to bar sex offenders from foster parenting

Legislators are discussing a bill that would make it illegal for convicted sex offenders to serve as foster parents in South Carolina.

Note: Does this mean that sex offenders were allowed to be foster parents prior to this bill?

aww how cute. Dr Phil tries to track down Tommy Jordan

Monday, February 20, 2012

SystemSuckology: Foster Care Fairy Tales

Earlier today I posted a link to a blog called Foster-2-Forever. Now before some system suck gets their panties in a bunch, (Oh my God how can I pick on such a sweetie) I gotta say that I do not believe that this person is bad or evil. In fact just the opposite. Although she is certainly on the old Imperialistic Morality Parade, I'm sure she is taking very good care of the kids who come into her home, and I'm sure she really wants to do what is best for the kids. She just doesn't understand what that is.

I also gotta say that I do enjoy reading this particular blog, but not because I see it as having any educational value whatsoever. I read it more for entertainment. Why? Because it is one of the best examples of the Fairy Tale view of foster care and adoption that I have ever seen.

So what do I mean by the Fairy Tale view? Well... Mostly that her writings do not reflect the reality that most people experience, but instead preaches a much happier scenario. If this is her reality then great. In the case where the child really needs to be protected, I wish it could be like that for all of them. I would hope that every kid in the world would have a good home. I would hope that they would all grow up loved and nurtured. I would also hope that if they were in foster care that there really were no other options such as a grandparent or loving family member who should always come first.

Unfortunately many kids in this system do not find this kind of happily ever after scenario. It is difficult to find a "Forever Home" for a teenager for example. I've come across multiple news stories that claim that it's hard to find adoptive placements for special needs kids or sibling groups. This is not stating that I agree with most of these kids even being adopted when there are so many loving family members out there fighting for so many of them. It simply means that one persons reality may not reflect the reality of the norm, and this is an exceptionally "Happily Ever After" sort of a scenario.

What makes it even more of a fairy tale view is the fact that those who preach this kind of view do not acknowledge the very real problems within the system. For example, only abused and neglected kids are in the system. Workers never steal children and are always the heroes. Real parents are always hideous villains.

Never do they talk about the kids who are abused in foster care or the kids who are bounced around from home to home. Theirs will has a happy ending. They never bring up the systematic failures, you'll never see talk about the kids in group homes, abuse in care or the over-drugging of the foster kids. Nope, they're gonna love them, and hold them, and kiss away all of their troubles and give them some cute nickname on their blogs.



I do bring up these problems because I sometimes feel like they're preaching the wrong message as if this is the reality that all potential adoptive parents will experience, while many kids and parents suffer in secret. This view being preached so often ultimately leads to failed adoptions when the new adoptive parent looking for their happily ever after suddenly comes to understand of what they really got themselves into and the state still gets the money for the successful outcome anyway, and they may even get the kid back a year or so later. It leads to an undeserved positive public perception of the Child Protective Industry. That undeserved positive perception enables them to get away with fraud, corruption, child trafficking, etc. in secret, while the public believes the system to be the perfect little world like that which is preached in Foster 2 Forever.

When I do try to call them on their bullshit, I'm automatically accused of being the bad guy. I'm told to stop bashing foster parents. They always come back at me with a horror story of a kid who was really abused so severely, for example the worst of the worst of the worst as if they think that I believe in a parents right to abuse a child. I don't want to see kids get hurt either. They will all do this. Not only the foster parents but any system suck. They act as if calling them on their bullshit is the same as being pro-child abuse. It is not.

What do you not see the failure to protect cases that I post? You know the cases where the kid really did need to be protected, but the workers were too busy chasing shadows and harassing innocent parents who are having a hard time? Come on! The last thing I want to see is a kid get hurt. These people are so full of shit it's pathetic. Look for example at the comments that were posted after mine on the following post. I am trying to be polite here and start a serious discussion. And I have. But their responses are almost always the same. It's always the same argument. "But what about the kids who really are abused or neglected?"

http://foster2forever.com/2012/02/love-from-a-birthmother.html

The simple reason that so many of these kids do fall through the cracks is because there are too many false accusations and reports without merit. It's because the sheep are so caught up in the Penn State Sex Abuse Scandal or the Casey Anthony trial that they will report anybody who doesn't parent to their standards in their opinion. It could also be argued that the workers are incompetent and couldn't tell the difference between an abused or neglected child and a hole in the wall and spend more time tearing apart impoverished or innocent families than they do protecting abused or neglected kids. But this is beside the point.

The reason that the Fairy Tale view is so dangerous is the fact that it's the preaching of the wrong message to the gullible from the gullible who live in their perfect little worlds. It's the case of the blind leading the blind, where the cute little babies who become available are snatched up long before they're damaged like the older kids who are bounced around and end up on an edition of Wednesday's Child.



Wednesday's Child is another example of the Fairy Tale view.

How so?

Well, notice in the video that I just shared, the kid is dressed up nicely and taken to a fun place where he'll be having a blast. That way he's all happy and bubbly for the camera. When he gets back to the foster home, all hell will break loose. The rages will begin. He'll be given his meds and spend the rest of the day walking around aimlessly like a good little zombie.


But what a happy scenario the media presents to you, wouldn't you think? Do you think this kid would be a good edition to your family? Do you think this kid would be a challenge? Would his problems all be solved if he could just find his forever home? Did you notice they have him convinced of this? Why wouldn't the current foster parents adopt him? Is it possible that somebody loves and misses him? Or are all these kids really unwanted and unloved?

So this is what we'll call the "Dreams of Forever Homes" scenario. This is where they convince the kids that everything will be all better if they can only find them a family. They will live happily ever after. If they can't find them that forever home, then it's out on your ass at age 18. Sorry! See Ya!



Sacred Work of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

Sacred Work of Grandparents Raising Grandchildren

Social Worker and author of the book The Sacred Work of Grandparents raising Grandchildren, Elaine Williams discusses the almost ten percent of children in this country being raised by their Grandparents or other relatives.

Police: Mother who abducted children headed to Las Vegas

Police: Mother who abducted children headed to Las Vegas

An Amber Alert remained in effect Monday morning as authorities searched for an Idaho woman accused of abducting her three children from their foster home.

Child welfare: Hickenlooper's new plan calls for "common practice approach" in all 64 counties

Child welfare: Hickenlooper's new plan calls for "common practice approach" in all 64 counties

State officials have a new plan for improving Colorado's child-welfare system, one that will beef up training for caseworkers, make data about child deaths more readily available, and employ a "common practice approach" in all 64 counties -- an idea that hasn't gotten far in the past, as explained in our cover story, "Death Knell."

Transgender children getting more drug, hormone treatments

Transgender children getting more drug, hormone treatments

A small but growing number of teens and even younger children who think they were born the wrong sex are getting support from parents and from doctors who give them sex-changing treatments, according to reports in the medical journal Pediatrics.

Love From a Birthmother

Why is it that the clueless are the most likely to speak?

I love this blog. I really do. This person cracks me up.

Love From a Birthmother

I left a comment on this post. In this comment I explained to her why people are coming at her with what she refers to as "hate mail" which in her naivety she just can't understand. So I explain to her that it's not hate mail. It's justifiable anger directed at those who stole their children. I will share my comment with you now because I doubt it will stay there once she reads it.

Here it is...
Penelope Darling

I will explain this to you once.

First of all, terms like birth-family and bio-parents are offensive. We are the parents. You are not. So please stop labeling us as if we came out of a test tube. That would be greatly appreciated.

Second: Not all children in foster care are abused or neglected, so lets dispel that myth right there, as you're great at preaching that which you learned about in foster parent training but are clueless as to the reality of the pain and suffering that innocent families who are victimized by child welfare are dealing with. And parents who are fighting for the return of their stolen children, don't need some clueless self-righteous hypocrite on an imperialistic morality trip and who believes every lie that the nice social worker tells them, judging them with comments like "In my naivety, I didn’t think that raising abused and neglected children would be something anyone could hate." Because it's not hate, it's justifiable anger pointing at those who are guilty of destroying families and warehousing kids, and the only one preaching any hate here is you. In your naivety, you are preaching hate against real parents, perhaps because you're jealous because of fertility issues or something? Or perhaps you're trying to justify your part in the injustice committed against families by child welfare so that you can sleep at night? I don't know. Comments and posts like this are simply your way of demonizing real parents and justifying your part in a very real injustice that you, in your naivety, refuse to acknowledge or even consider as a viable possibility.

Perhaps you don't realize that poor people are targeted because they can't afford the thousands of dollars for a good lawyer? Perhaps you haven't been paying attention to the immigration issue, which has now resulted in thousands of kids being thrown into foster care while their parents are deported? Perhaps you don't understand that in order to get their adoption numbers up, (keeping up appearances) they need to provide a steady stream of cute little blond haired/blue eyed babies? Perhaps you don't understand that most of the news on the issue comes straight from the agencies public relations departments? Perhaps you should read my blog and see how many pedophiles are caught every week for molesting the foster kids in their care, or how many foster kids are murdered at the hands of foster parents.

Did I ever tell you how my step-son was molested by a foster parent when he was 4 years old? Well he screamed and threatened to tell, so the foster parent then bashed his head off the refrigerator causing permanent brain damage. I had to console my wife through the whole entire thing after she found out about it. I watched a sadistic social worker, who BTW totally got off on the power trip, rip her heart out of her chest with a big smile on her face then try to use me to justify terminating her rights, even though I came along two years after the accused parent was long gone from the picture, and the only thing on my criminal record was a speeding ticket that I got when I was 18. Then she wanted to take my daughter right from the hospital at birth. It costed me $12,000 in legal fees, and a few thousand more to shrinks, parenting classes etc just so that we could bring her home. So go ahead and ask me, in your naivety, why anybody could hate a foster parent or a social worker. I could easily hook you up with lots of people who could explain it to you.

Third: Workers lie. Get it through your gullible head and educate yourself before you speak. Either that or keep on preaching your fairy tales about how wonderful foster parents are, and you will continue to be targeted by real parents who are fighting for the rights to THEIR kids.


Now perhaps I left something out? If so, please feel free to comment here and there.

Sunday, February 19, 2012

**What I would say to all my ex-foster parents…

This is a post from one of my personal favorite blogs. LT is about as brilliant and truthful as they come, and one of the best bloggers on the subject of the Foster Care Experience.

**What I would say to all my ex-foster parents…

Stolen Children Worth A $13,000 Tax Credit - Baby LK Report For February 19th 2012 Stolen Children Worth A $13,000 Tax Credit - Baby LK Report For Fe

Amber Alert issued for 3 Idaho children not returned to foster home



Amber Alert issued for 3 Idaho children not returned to foster home

Authorities in southwest Idaho issued an Amber Alert early Sunday morning for three children who police say weren't returned to their foster home after a visit with their non-custodial mother.

Overcrowding, lax screening and too few homes: foster care crisis deepens

Overcrowding, lax screening and too few homes: foster care crisis deepens

Some children are placed in foster care without full safety checks while others wind up in supervised apartments or overcrowded homes, say child advocates who warn of a deepening crisis across the country.

National data lacking on numbers, services for foster kids in Canada

DHS receives surge in foster parent inquiries

DHS receives surge in foster parent inquiries

Record numbers of Oklahomans have been calling DHS to inquire about becoming foster parents in response to stories in last Sunday's issue of The Oklahoman about state shelters being overcrowded with babies and other children.

Note: Think about all the money you'll get.

Canada's foster care crisis deepens

Canada's foster care crisis deepens

Some children are placed in foster care without full safety checks while others wind up in supervised apartments or overcrowded homes, say child advocates who warn of a deepening crisis across the country.

Canadian foster care in crisis, experts say

Bobbi Kristina Brown Found Getting High After Whitney’s Funeral?

Bobbi Kristina Brown Found Getting High After Whitney’s Funeral?

Whitney Houston’s daughter disappeared for several hours after her mother’s funeral—and was found using drugs, according to two sources close to the family. Allison Samuels on the plan to get her to rehab.

Everyone needs to see this story. Congratulations to Maryanne Godboldo.



Everyone needs to see this story. Congratulations to Maryanne Godboldo. One voice can make a difference.

Saturday, February 18, 2012

Agencies: Child sex cases up since Penn State scandal

Agencies: Child sex cases up since Penn State scandal

More people have been reporting and seeking help for child sexual abuse in the months since the national media frenzy over a former Penn State football coach being charged with sexually abusing boys.

Adams County case is second recent death of child in state welfare system

Adams County case is second recent death of child in state welfare system

For the second time in less than a month, a case has been opened involving a Colorado child who died allegedly from abuse after entering the child- welfare program.

Teens in foster care need 'a break' to turn around their livesTeens in foster care need 'a break' to turn around their lives Teens in foster care

Teens in foster care need 'a break' to turn around their lives

Rosa McFarland had pretty much resigned herself to the idea that her life would probably turn out like that of her birth parents.

Settlement paid in lawsuit over baby's death

Settlement paid in lawsuit over baby's death

The parents of an infant who suffocated in an Indianapolis foster home in which she was placed by the Indiana Department of Child Services recently collected a $210,000 settlement from the state.

Irish social workers are horrified by their ruthless English counterparts

Irish social workers are horrified by their ruthless English counterparts

Families fleeing the interventions of social workers have been finding a far more humane approach across the water.

Norway NRI couple reunite with their children



ndian couple in Norway on Friday reunited with their children after 3 months. This is being seen as a patch-up between them and the Norwegian authorities. An agreement has been reached between the Child Welfare services and the parents

Accountability hard to come by

Accountability hard to come by

On July 21, 2010, family advocate Rev. Lorne Meisner sent a lengthy letter to then-Family Services Minister Gord Mackintosh and later to senior managers at the General Child and Family Services Authority and the Health Science Centre. He wanted accountability for the wrongs suffered by the family.

Friday, February 17, 2012

UK government aims to combat fatherlessness with shared parenting law

UK government aims to combat fatherlessness with shared parenting law

Two weeks ago the U.K. government announced its intention to amend the 1989 Children’s Act. Changes will include a “presumption of shared parenting” to ensure that children’s relationships with both parents continues after separation. Under the current adversarial system, as in Canada, legal custody battles almost invariably end with mothers gaining sole custody.

Parents, State Fight Over Child

Parents, State Fight Over Child

The case concerning a 14-year-old southern Illinois girl began Friday.

State won’t answer questions about caseloads after 35 child deaths

State won’t answer questions about caseloads after 35 child deaths

A Channel 2 Action News investigation has discovered the deaths of 35 Georgia children, all of whom had cases with the Division of Family and Children Services, have died in the past 75 days -- meaning one death occured nearly every other day since Dec. 1.

U.S. Senate unanimously passes bill for children's right to family

U.S. Senate unanimously passes bill for children's right to family

Last Wednesday the U.S. Senate unanimously passed an important resolution authored by U.S. Senator Mary L. Landrieu, D-La., which supports local, state, federal and international efforts that work to safeguard and promote the right of every child to a permanent family.

A couple speaks out against the Florida Department of Children & Families




A couple originally from Texas describes how one call to the Florida Department of Children and Families ruined their lives.

State pays $210,000 in death of foster child

State pays $210,000 in death of foster child

While not admitting any liability or wrongdoing, the state quietly paid $210,000 recently to settle a lawsuit filed by the parents of Destiny Linden. Back in 2008, we wrote about how the Indianapolis infant suffocated in a foster home where she was placed by the Indiana Department of Child Services in 2008.

Norway now says decision by early March in kids custody row

Norway now says decision by early March in kids custody row

Norway's Child Welfare Service will take a decision by early March on whether the custody of the two Indian children, who have been separated from their parents, can be awarded to their uncle after which an arrangement will be put in place to take care of their needs back home.

Bobby Brown invited to Whitney Houston's funeral

Bobby Brown invited to Whitney Houston's funeral

There are reports that the family will hold a private wake Friday for the late pop superstar Whitney Houston. Her funeral will be Saturday.

Hickenlooper Announces Colorado Child-Welfare System Overhaul

Hickenlooper Announces Colorado Child-Welfare System Overhaul

On Thursday, Gov. John Hickenlooper announced several changes to improve Colorado's child welfare system after 43 children have died within the system in just the last five years.

Court case delays Manitoba inquiry into death of child in care Court case delays Manitoba inquiry into death of child in care

Court case delays Manitoba inquiry into death of child in care

A court action by a union representing Child and Family Services workers in Manitoba has set back the inquiry into the death of Phoenix Sinclair by several weeks.

Fed-up dad's violent outburst draws fire from parenting experts

Fed-up dad's violent outburst draws fire from parenting experts

Earlier this month, a 15-year-old girl named Hannah in Albemarle, N.C., logged onto Facebook and posted a note:

Update: Foster teen cleared for chemo

Update: Foster teen cleared for chemo

A day after highlighting a foster child's fight against cancer - and against a bureaucracy that she said has delayed her access to treatment – there is hopeful news to report. Wednesday, a judge signed an order allowing the teen to have more chemotherapy treatments.

Police: teacher, counselor failed to report child sexual assault

Police: teacher, counselor failed to report child sexual assault

Wednesday, Myrtle Beach police arrested Carole McMahon and Julie Farmer-Janis, a teacher and counselor at Myrtle Beach Intermediate School , for failing to report the sexual abuse of a student.

Norway custody row: Parents meet children after three months

Norway custody row: Parents meet children after three months

After a three-month-long agonising wait, Anurup and Sagarika Bhattacharya finally met their children in Norway today. The meeting began at around 2:30 pm IST and lasted about two hours. The parents met their children along with the uncle. The short meeting was watched by officials of Norway's Child Welfare Protective Services.

Dickinson wants disclosure on revoked foster care licenses

Dickinson wants disclosure on revoked foster care licenses

A Sacramento lawmaker is hoping to close a legal loophole that allowed a Sacramento middle school teacher to remain in the classroom three years after the state revoked his foster care license following allegations of child sexual abuse.

Judge Orders Blog Shut Down After Implied Death Threats

Judge Orders Blog Shut Down After Implied Death Threats

Judge Richard Perkins ordered the blog shut down after implied death threats and prejudiced statements were posted on it over a family court case.

Maltese-run orphanage stops adoption for singles

Maltese-run orphanage stops adoption for singles

A Maltese Church-run Ethiopian orphanage, from where several people have adopted children, has decided to stop adoptions by single people.

Criminal Background Checks for Prospective Foster and Adoptive Parents

Criminal Background Checks for Prospective Foster and Adoptive Parents


This factsheet discusses the requirements set by the States for conducting checks of State and Federal criminal records of prospective foster and adoptive parents, as well as any adults residing in the prospective parents' households. These records checks are part of the home study process used to assess the suitability of these homes for placement of foster or adoptive children. The crimes that will disqualify a foster or adoptive applicant also are discussed. An overview of Federal requirements also is provided. Summaries of laws for all States and U.S. territories are included.

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